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Supporting Each Other

The Show Goes On by Bruce Hornsby

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Dealing with a hectic schedule, stepping over the ever present firehouse bag/equipment at the end of the bed, the beeping pager, and feeling like you are all alone can be challenging.
 
We understand!
 Let's lean on each other for support!
 

YIELDING TO THE FIREHOUSE
Click on the sign for a great board discussion about feeling second.

Yielding to the Firehouse

CLICK HERE: for another great FFW board discussion

   CALENDARS   
Click below to go to a great site with easy to follow instructions to create a calendar that fits your shift needs - 24/48, 4 on/4off...

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If you prefer a "real" calendar for your walls or desktop (not the virtual kind) look for a link on our Stuff page.

   YOU CAN DO IT TOO!   
Buy your own tools & pick up a copy of a self help book or check out one of these sites for help:

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Home Repair Stuff

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**HOW TO SURVIVE THE FIRE ACADEMY** You think it's a tough time for Firefighters? Try being his wife!!! Looking for support? Click here for some of the best advice and information you will ever read!

   ADVICE COLUMN   

Communication - one of the keys to a successful relationship.  Torybay suggests investing a few dollars on a white board/cork board.  "We use the white board to leave general messages. (I miss you,remind me to tell you about this or that, overtime shift on friday etc) and the other side for papers the kids bring home from school like tests or important school stuff etc. This helps keep DH involved and picks up all those little things you forget by the time he is home. We only use this for DH/kids/me stuff not lunch menus etc. and DH always checks it first thing home on the way to the fridge for a soda."

My DH/SO had a bad day at the firehouse. What should I do/say?
 
After a big {{hug}}, I let DH know I am there for him if he wants to talk.  I encourage him to do something to relax - in our case - why don't you take a nap or go fishing.  Sometimes later in the evening, I'll let him know the door is still open to talk.  Basically I let him take the lead and go with the flow. *tina.startingagain*
 
Some FF's will come home from a horrid call and need to rehash it and get it off their chest. Others will come home yell at the kids anounce that they hate supper and park themselves in the recliner growling at anything that passes. Both ways are normal and one is not more right then the other. Just remember that if your DH is that ladder (like mine) it is not because he loves you less that is just the way he can cope with this. Just make sure he knows if he needs to talk you will listen. *torybay*
 

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   LOCAL SUPPORT  
Join the ladies auxilary or start your own chapter.

Click to start your own chapter
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Local support is awesome when you form bonds with ladies that understand.  You may even be surprised to find car pooling, babysitting networks and other ideas to help you out especially when your firefighter is on duty.

   WHAT'S FOR DINNER?   
You just got home from work.  DH is on duty and soccer is in less than one hour. 

Table setting

Quick & Easy Recipes @ iVillage

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GOD BLESS US EVERYONE

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